Essay topic: Should parents who have more than one child treat all of their children in exactly the same way? Give reasons for your view.

the same way

Normally parents tend to treat all children alike. They are given the same food, sometimes the clothing, and very often the same time of schooling. There is nothing unnatural about it and it is as it should be.

Where the family shares a common table all shall be served the same food. Similarly in the matter of clothing children are dressed alike. This in fact helps to avoid a quarrel among the children. If John is not given the same type of clothing as Charles he may frown cry and quarrel. Where food and clothing are concerned, there need not be a separate treatment.

In educating the children, the same treatment may be all right in the lower classes. But when it comes to a matter of higher education the difficulty comes in children of the same parents are not alike. Even in the case of identical twins, the difference is perceivable.

In the case of normal children, there are bound to be vast differences physically and intellectually. In the same family, we might come across highly intelligent children as well as muffs. So certainly there should be different treatments for different children. A wise parent should never try to put all children into the same mold.

The children vary in their attitude to work, study and play. One may be physically strong and prefer physical rather than intellectual work. The second may prefer sports, games, and active open-air life rather than classroom work. Still, a third may like to read a lot. So it is for the parent to observe closely and study the attitude of the individual child accordingly he must choose the career of the child.

It is easier said than done. There are many problems in choosing what type of education the child must be given. The difficulty may be in the means. All facilities cannot be provided by the parents.

That is why most parents choose the line of least resistance and send their children to public school or grammar school. Since these schools cannot cater to the individual needs of children, many of the children leave school as misfits or with an aversion to the scholastic life.

Even a discerning parent cannot theoretically speak and treat children differently according to their talent and capacity. Where the parent fails the Government must step into democratic countries.

Whereas in some countries, the state takes a stern view of the education of children and makes a square man in a round hole may not arise. This is a very delicate question and unless the parent treats children intelligently there may be more harm than good.